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"CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever" (carsoffortlangley)
03/17/2019 at 01:35 • Filed to: None

Kinda down. My longtime friend is moving away he told me today. Also, Casey, our poodle is very sick.

Outside of Oppo, I don’t have much (any) social life other than this one friend. So, it sucks.

Both pieces of news kinda hit me hard.

DISCUSSION (28)

Chariotoflove > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:40

I’m sorry, Man. Tha t’s tough. I hope doggo pulls through though.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Chariotoflove
03/17/2019 at 01:42

Shes quite old unfortunately

Chariotoflove > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:44

Oh boy. I’ve had dogs and cats pass on. It’s always expected, but it never gets easier. :(

Tristan > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:45

That always sucks... Being active duty military most of my adult life has ensured my friends will be spread as far across the globe as possible. My best friends live in Minnesota, Iowa, Florida and the UK, and Oppo is my only social life since being immersed in college and work the last couple of years.

vicali > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:45

Hey, truck season is just around the corner!

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:46

My best friend moved away last February. And I had zero friends, so now I have like... Negative friends now. Just doggo.

pip bip - choose Corrour > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 01:56

you get to have a road trip to see him to catch up

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > pip bip - choose Corrour
03/17/2019 at 02:00

Canada is a big country sadly. It'd be easier if he moved to Mexico

Eric @ opposite-lock.com > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:00

I didn’t realize the freeze extended into Canada and always thought it petered out somewhere around B-ham...

I’m sorry to hear it. My social world outside work is also extremely limited. In fact, Oppo is the only way I’ve done anything social with people up here that don’t fall into one of the following categories: coworkers, friends of coworkers, wife’s family, or wife’s friends.

Hoping your doggo gets better soon.

pip bip - choose Corrour > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:01

fly?

Future Heap Owner > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:09

Dang, how long until he leaves? Do you still have a month or so at least?

I’m really sorry to hear about Casey . The last dog in my life had to be put down (due to illness) earlier this week. I hope he rallies and gives you months more time together, if not a year. The cat my ex and I had developed stage four liver failure and spent days in the 24-hour kitty hospital, recovered, and lived for another 16 months.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Future Heap Owner
03/17/2019 at 02:11

Thanks! I have a month with my friend, yeah

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:17

shit dude... hang tight..we are here for you

even my annoying self

Chuckles > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:36

I’m sorry to hear about your dog. It’s so tough to see a beloved pet struggling. Enjoy whatever time you still have together.

As for the friend, keep in touch with him. You never know what the future holds. I moved 500 miles away and 5 years later ended up right back where I started. So don’t give up on the friendship.

Making new friends as an adult is hard work. Being social with coworkers is arduous, and outside of work where the hell do you meet people? For me, honestly, it was when I started playing pinball a year ago. I started going to tournaments and now I play with people every 2 weeks or so. It's like video games but with a real world social aspect. So my advice is find something that you like doing, and try to find other people who like that too.

Future Heap Owner > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:40

Well, at least you get to see them a few times before they leave. And once they leave, it’ll be less than a month before you see some of us!

Future Heap Owner > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:45

Where’s he going? Nanavut or Novia Scotia?

Svend > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 02:53

Sorry to hear about your Poodle.

I don’t have friends as such either. I’ve one that lives just under 100 miles away but he’s a teacher married to a teacher with two little kids and I’m single and work nights, so we very rarely meet.

The lasses I go out for a meal with are all married ex-colleagues and at least ten years older than me and we meet every two to four months for a meal and lots of alcohol. But other than that, my social life is here.

We make a right bunch don’t we!? But we’re here for you, which is the main thing, I know it’s not the same as someone you see each day or a few times a week and catch up with some beers over a game of football, rugby or American padded rugby.

NotUnlessRoundIsFunny > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 03:50

Sorry to hear this on both counts. Feel what you need to feel and know there are kind people on Oppo (and of course, elsewhere).

I think it’s particularly hard with the critter, because of communication.

You can try to keep up with the longtime friend by phone and such. I have a dear, childhood friend I’ve rarely seen in years, still keeps in touch off and on. Occasionally we’ll “get together for drinks” over the phone, each with the craft brew of our choice. It’s not the same, but the friendship survives.

TheRealBicycleBuck > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 06:59

I’m seeing a common thread in the replies and I’m no exception. My best buddy lives about 12 hours away. We chat about once a month. I married my best friend, but since I’ve been traveling, I see her two to three weekends a month.

If you have a gap that needs filling, try out something new or get more involved in something you already do. Being around other people with a common interest is a good way to help fill that gap and might help you find a new friend.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 08:25

He moving to my neck of the woods? That’s pretty far away if that’s the case...sorry to hear about your friend moving mate!

And sorry to hear about the pup....sending strong love to the Poodle so your dog beats this!

Monkey B > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 08:43

my best friend of 30 years moved to California last year (I’m on the east coast) and it’s something I’ll never get used to. We never communicated daily, but we were always in touch and right there when needed for important times. The distance and time zones make it so I talk to him few times a year and see him a few days a year for a few hours when he’s home to visit...it stinks.

But I am happy for him to be living his best life...CA offers all the things he’s into and he’s wanted to be somewhere else for a long time. I did too, but have children so my roots are here.

Meeting good reliable friends as an adult is extremely difficult.

shop-teacher > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 10:55

Sorry to hear that. Hang in there man!

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Future Heap Owner
03/17/2019 at 11:17

East coast, yeah

ST80MND > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 12:36

Hang in there bud, this too shall pass. All of my friends got married and had kids. As a person without kids, I find myself in the same situation. This has led me to some unexpected social outings. It turns out there is a whole world of very excellent people doing all manner of things I thought I would be doing alone, like midnight urban downhill, and cars and coffee. All I had to do was get over myself, loosen up a bit, and realize not everybody is dumb. I wish you the best with your pooch, there isn't much I can say about that.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > ST80MND
03/17/2019 at 13:34

Thanks man!

Future Heap Owner > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 23:22

Hey CoFL, I hope you’re feeling a bit better tonight. If you want to talk ever, hit me up at dlp@aperiodic.org

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > Future Heap Owner
03/17/2019 at 23:23

Thanks. I’m OK, I walked her a bit, that was nice, but she’s moving very slowly. Just taking it day to day.

I appreciate it.

I am sorry to hear about your dog, I know things have been tough on you in recent months

Future Heap Owner > CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
03/17/2019 at 23:35

That’s all you can do right now; appreciate the time you still have with her, and make it as good for her as you can. The hard part is being able to forget enough about what’s coming to be able to enjoy the moments that are still left.

The dog was a friend’s, not mine. But he was the only dog I still saw regularly, who knew me and was happy to see me. So it was hard, but not nearly as hard as what she’s going through. I feel really bad for her.